Catch them being good.
You know that great feeling you get when someone says ‘Well done,’ or thanks you for your hard work, or comments on how nice you look or how much they enjoyed your meal? Acknowledgement, positive reinforcement and praise work wonders to raise our self esteem and motivate us to continue.
The same applies to children.
Like us, they need praise.
Too often we tend to comment on the negative behaviour but neglect commenting on the positive. This becomes a downward spiral. Kids want attention and they will find the best way to get it!
If they get more attention by behaving badly then this is what they will continue to do. If they are praised for eating correctly, putting their toys away, not interrupting, sharing, playing quietly etc, then their periods of positive behaviour will increase. It’s hard to apply this method initially but it’s worth it in the long run!